So far, it seems that if you don't tip a lot of people from waiters, to car wash people, to hairdressers, to pizza delivery boys, they will have their revenge on you. Also if you are a bad tipper. The only people who come out of it looking good are the sex workers who will give you a good time anyway!
How much objectivity about tipping can one expect from an author whose first book was [b:Waiter Rant: Thanks for the Tip-Confessions of a Cynical Waiter|2187270|Waiter Rant Thanks for the Tip-Confessions of a Cynical Waiter|Steve Dublanica|https://d.gr-assets.com/books/1348571120s/2187270.jpg|2192977]?
In the islands, local people rarely tip, but they are loudly rude to people who give bad service, so they get reasonable service. Local whites (like me) get treated like rubbish because we only tip when we feel we have had good service. Which isn't often since we are being treated like rubbish. Americans are fawned over to the point the wait staff are standing in puddles of dripping syrup, but they leave 20%. I hate that.
It was explained to me once by a waitress at a notoriously crap place for service, that she wasn't going out of her way to serve people who didn't tip well. She didn't understand that good service would bring the tip. She said that these people were locals and they should tip first and then next time they would get better service. Arrogant? Much!
Once in a while I go to a resort on a private island where the day, say lunch and drinks is going to cost us $150+. For dinner we are talking $250+ easily. I am seriously not tipping someone $30 for bringing me a menu, my food and drinks. 10% because that's what the standard was before Americans. The waitresses on this island are paid quite well and they get a share of the service charge, but 15 and 20% is what is "suggested" on the check. You are joking.
Why I especially dislike giving these people even a dime (although I do give 10% usually) is because it is a half-hour sail home on the private ferry, and if you get the last one back to the island, you share it with the staff. They sit up top, shouting to each other, "mudderfucker", "cunt", "stupid fucking bitch" and worse, they will criticise the people they just served. I really heard that. The woman was on the boat too. you will hear shouted around. They have their regular seats and like to spread themselves and their gear out, they don't care if the tourists and diners trip or can't get seats together. They just seriously love to show their contempt of these people they were oiling up only half an hour before. And when you go back, they will ooze charm when working and it's the same thing back on the late boat.
So why go? Because it is a beautiful island with fabulous beaches, the food is beyond excellent and it is fun to be with these super-wealthy helicoptered in 'we expect only the best' people sometimes.
I hate to see a tip jar next to a cashier in newsagent or a fast food joint. In Miami recently the free bus that takes potential customers to Dolphin Mall had a sign about tips being welcome. The driver doesn't even help you with your bags. And on and on... What am I tipping for?
I hope this book is going to tell me.